@drjondabach · Jon Dabach, PhD | Relationship Coach
Saved 2026-05-15 · Posted 2025-08-04 · Status: New
You won’t always feel in love. And that doesn’t mean something’s wrong.
Because love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a decision. A choice you make daily.
You won’t wake up every morning with butterflies. But you can wake up every morning choosing to stay, to try, to grow.
That’s real love. Not the high, but the commitment.
Some days it feels effortless. Other days, it takes work.
But when you treat it well, like something sacred, it will give back more than it takes.
Stop asking if you’re “feeling it.”
Start asking if you’re choosing it.
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Love is a choice and commitment..!! 🎯🎯 😎
Yeah there’s no “falling out of love” It’s “I stopped choosing love.” Love is an action not a feeling. It’s a choice.
I don't think so. Love has to be both. Fed by actions. By both.
Two people should realize it, take responsibility for it, remember it and make it work. 👏
37 years 🙌🙌🙌❤️❤️❤️our love has grown in ways I could not fathom in my mind .🤯🤯🤯 we always choose us we always will 🙌🙌🙌 all my love all my life 🙌🙌🙌 soul ties that can’t be broken ❤️❤️ ❤️ I choose you. I’ll choose you over and over and over without pause without doubt in a heartbeat I’ll keep choosing you. My Love ❤️❤️❤️
Love is an action. You can’t say you love someone and then treat them poorly.
Yes! And love is an action. In every moment we can engage in more, or less, loving behavior.
What if he's abusive and says oh it's not a good day but I still love you. No way im staying
Its both.
It is both a choice and a Feeling. The choice is meaningless without the feeling
In the Bible, love is a covenant choice backed by action, not just a mood or a rush of emotion. Feelings may inspire love, but real biblical love is when you choose to seek the good of another — no matter how you feel in the moment.🔥🔥🔥
This is BS.. call it whatever you want.. that feeling you have when you in front of the person that touches your heart is Real..and if youre not careful that feeling can disappear... you dont want to call it love, so be it.. but with out it any relationship you build without it, will not be the ultimate relationship.... Being in a relationship is the Choice.. not that feeling... because you surly csnt control it.
Well, after 41 years of marriage, I feel like that explanation is only partially correct, because it doesn't take into account that your choice to be in the marriage is based on the feeling you have for them, one doesn't choose to feel that special way, you just do.. so give it some time, don't make your choices based solely on the low points of your marriage, there will be many, make your choice based on how you feel overall..
Dmm..!!, bro found the one at her prime, she’s a rare gem 💎 wifey ♥️👏🏽😎
…..Unless you’re being abused. Choose yourself and your safety if your partner has chosen to not love you and mistreats you. That isn’t love and couldn’t have been from the beginning. It’s not always right or safe to “stay married”.