@pagetkagy · Paget Kagy | Quantum Energy Coach
Saved 2026-05-15 · Posted 2026-05-09 · Status: New
Tag a friend who keeps calling the good one "boring" 💔
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If he's kind, consistent, calm - and you're feeling nothing -that's not a chemistry problem. That's your nervous system addicted to chaos 🧠
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Anxious attachment makes unavailable men feel like butterflies and available men feel like boredom.
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Your healing work? Teaching your body that safe isn't the same as not special 🌌
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Save this for the next time steady feels "off"
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#anxiousattachment #attachmentstyles #nervoussystemregulation #healingjourney #dating
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In other words, a lot of women dont want a man they want a trauma response.
This is why as a dude , whenever, I felt I girl isn't biting my effort and consistency, I stopped trying and moved on. You can be a great person but if your perception of normal is distorted, then nothing I can do . Interestingly, if you stop chasing such girls, you attract ladies who appreciate your emotional stability. Probably, things will be the same with genders reversed.
Absolutely true, however, you should be physically attracted to your partner. So just because you aren't and he's consistent doesn't mean you should force anything.
Dating coach here. This is spot on and much-needed to be shared 🙌❤️
I love how the English accent here is voice of reason 😂👍🏻✅
Women have a skewed view of what love actually is because of hollywood and society feeding that bias. This is why whenever someone who loves them points out what they are doing is wrong they assume this person doesnt love them. In reality only someone who doesnt love you will agree with everything you do even when its detrimental to you, your health, your family etc
Even if you understand this, it still won’t change anything — he’ll still be a boring and uninteresting guy. You can keep giving advice to other women, but we all know what you actually like and what really turns you on.
I am a man, i felt this. I recently met the most amazing girl in the world, and I almost cried multiple times because I was scared I did not feel those butterflies. When I turned to prayer i realized that i was just scared because i tought it was too good to be true... and it is too good, but it is also true. So I thank God for the gift of love he gave me!
There’s some truth in that reel, but it’s oversimplified. Psychology research does show that people with insecure attachment or unresolved trauma can confuse anxiety and unpredictability with “chemistry.” But attraction and romantic bonding are also deeply biological: dopamine, oxytocin, norepinephrine, and sexual attraction all play real roles in falling in love. So a healthy relationship does not have to feel “boring,” and a lack of any emotional or physical spark can matter too. The key distinction is that real chemistry usually feels exciting and emotionally safe — not chronically anxious, unstable, or triggering. (AI comment )
I have been telling people that the “spark” is your fight or flight being activated telling you to run. Listen to it.
please explain to us (man). situasion when she want eat and say whatever and doesn't want anything we offer..
But your video also makes so much sense and I'm sure it will help a lot of people who struggle with this
The problem is, they’re boring because like any other man they just don’t know how to hold a conversation, you’re pretty much talking by yourself, so is like either they agree with everything you said and don’t even put the effort in making the conversation interesting or they just don’t say anything at all, is nice that someone is consistent but if you’re not even able to connect deeply with them… that what’s the difference between just a friendship and courtship..
Monogamists doing anything but treating NRE like adults.
Or he s just passive. Doesnt do anything wrong but not iniciating anything 😭